...the part they don’t tell you about #Womanhood.
Yup you read that correctly.
As a sexual health educator part of my job is knowing the different stages of development.
As young as 4 or 5, kids are starting to really discover and explore their bodies. Some even explore what sex organs they have.
Moving on up, elementary age students will begin to notice they have body odor or maybe even start developing breast. Some will notice that they are shorter than some of their classmates or that they have more body hair.
Then there is middle school. I don't know about you, but middle school was probably when I looked the most awkward. I was this tiny itty bitty thing that was envious of all my friends for being taller, of my sisters for having full figured bodies, and sometimes my brother for having THE PERFECT eyelashes. I couldn’t WAIT to start developing.
For some, middle school is when they start getting their period and puberty really starts kicking in. Training bras, maxi pads, and body hair are some of the elephant in the room that nobody wants to discuss. You’re told don’t worry, you’ll grow out of it, give it time. But what should really be said is you'll grow into it and you will adapt to the changes in your body.
Then you get to high school and pimples start attacking your face...
You start to have an idea of what your adult body will look like, you'll start to notice and realize how other people's bodies will look like (you know in like a sexual way) and you'll start making dumb choices. But you can blame it on your brain, your brain is actually responsible for making those irresponsible choices. Your brain doesn't actually finish developing till about the age of 25! So I can totally blame choosing to go on all those bad dates on my brain. I didn't know any better (technically).
Here's where the second stage comes in
Once you pass high school, you stop getting educated on your body and the changes that it goes through. You aren't told that once you start aging you'll start getting facial hair (yes, its normal to have those chin hairs and mustache), body pimples (yup that's a pimple on your butt), lower back and butt pain, gravity running its course, the list goes on.
Like everything in life, there are stages. When you're approaching your late twenties you may hear people start to say that your clock is ticking. Have no fear, motherhood is ready when you are, no need to conform to the outside pressures. Something to know, however, is that as we get older, nature is going to take its course. Our hormone levels begin to drop. Things like estrogen, progesterone, testosterone are all starting to decline. Our fat starts to settle in all those places that we hate which forces us to change our unhealthy eating habits.
Don't panic just yet! A growing body is a beautiful body.
Here are some tips to keep you one step ahead of those changes!
1. Start taking vitamins- a multivitamin could be a great way to make sure that you're getting all the vitamins you need.
2. Exercise- gaining weight is inevitable. So if you want to stay clear of those love handles start getting into a routine now.
3. Strength training- since our bone density declines as we get older spending time building and making them stronger will set you up for success.
4. Sunscreen/moisturizer-YES SIS, COLORED GIRLS NEED SUNSCREEN! I know that we have amazing skin that has been kissed by the sun, but wearing sunscreen is super important. As we age our skin begins to lose elasticity, so trust and believe having sun damage is not going to help it snapback!
Until next time!