written by Felecia
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” - Audre Lorde
There is a lot happening in our country right now. Between a global pandemic, an economic crisis, and mounting protests against police brutality it feels like I have whiplash. My emotions are being pulled in so many directions all at once.
Last week felt like one of the wildest weeks of 2020… and what a wild year 2020 has been.
The murders of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Abery have sparked outrage in hearts all over the world and set off new waves in the Black Lives Matter movements.
In some ways it feels like last week was a blur. As a Black woman living in America, my heart is tired. I was balancing 17 different emotions at any given moment. Anger, sadness, frustration, hurt, hopelessness, fear, and so many more that I am not even sure how to name. Most of us tend to distract ourselves instead of dealing with our emotions. We’ll turn to social media, Netflx binging or anything else that we feel will help us drown out our feelings.
Today I want to remind you that regardless of what feelings you have, they are all valid. Allow yourself to feel all of the feelings fully and completely before moving to action. If you don’t process the feelings, then you are simply suppressing them and I promise that they will come back up eventually. Once you process those emotions use them to move to action with intention.
It is in these moments that I am reminded that self-care must be a non-negotiable part of activism. Ask yourself what your heart needs right now. How many social media posts can you interact with before it before your mental health is negatively impacted? Where do you turn to when you’re overwhelmed?
You are still allowed to have joy and feel happiness in the midst of everything else happening in the world. You are still allowed to laugh and smile. You are still allowed to show yourself love. Identify the places that celebrate you and embrace all of you unconditionally. Once you do, don’t be afraid to lean on them when you need to.
If you haven’t already, be sure to check out Publicly Sexy’s Mental Health Resources page. There you can find information on how to find anti-racist, identity affirming therapists.
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