June is Caribbean Heritage Month. Caribbean Heritage Month commemoration was adopted by the U.S. House of Representatives in 2005 to recognize the significance of Caribbean people and their descendants in the history and culture of the United States.
June is also Pride Month. Pride Month is when the world's LGBT communities come together and celebrate the freedom to be themselves. Pride gatherings are rooted in the strenuous history of minority groups who have struggled for decades to overcome prejudice and be accepted for who they are.
For this blog, I had the opportunity to interview a badass Caribbean, LGBTQ+, entrepreneur and an awesome mother @afrosabroad:
Gemina: What is your cultural background?
Patricia: Jamaican, Haitian and Panamanian but I don’t really claim that one.
Gemina: How do you identify sexually?
Patricia: I would say that I am queer.
Gemina: Is being queer something you’ve always known or was it a come to Jesus moment?
Patricia: Growing up, I always knew and it was always there.
Gemina: Have you come out to your family? If so, how was that experience?
Patricia: I honestly never felt the need to “come out”. Anyone who really knows me and I consider close- friends or family, already knows who I am. The only person who didn’t really have an idea was my Haitian grandmother and I had the intention of telling her. I was “outed” to her by someone. She gave me the full “Jesus made Adam and Eve” speech, with some choice words thrown in there. After that speech, she fed me and showed she still loved and accepted me for me.
Gemina: What misconceptions about sexuality did you grow up with in a Caribbean household?
Patricia: Women don’t have sex for pleasure, Caribbean men don’t give head but expect it in return. I grew up with the very misogynistic, patriarchal view of sex where it benefited men more than women and I never liked that.
Gemina: You’re a traveler like myself. How is travelling, specifically in the Caribbean as a queer woman?
Patricia: I definitely don’t change myself or behavior. But I am very aware of my passport and tourist privilege. My experience won’t be like any local who lives there. Some islands are very pro LGBTQ+ and others not so much. Just make sure you do your research. I see things are changing for the better and hopefully soon all the islands will be open
Gemina: You are mother to two very beautiful children. How do you parent them as queer woman?
Patricia: My kids will never have to hide anything about who they are with me. I am very open with them and let them know, there is and never will be any judgement from me. I want them to be comfortable and to be able to come to me first.
Gemina: I know you date men and women. For romance, who is better at it?
Patricia: Definitely women.
Gemina: What about sex, who does it better?
Patricia: Women! It’s not even a competition.
Gemina: Do you feel being queer gives you better options than the lack luster pool us straights have to deal with?
Patricia: My dating life is not bad even living here in a Muslim country. I recently went on a date with a man and I won’t be doing that again anytime soon! I am still very attracted to men but I prefer to date women.